While your testosterone could be hitting an all-time high, your lady might just shirk away and say, ‘Not tonight, honey’. We quite understand your disappointment because she might have hit you where it hurts the most. But, ever wondered why she is depriving you of sex when you want to spice up your bedroom with groans and moans? If not, here is what she means when she says no to love making.

It is too early
If you’ve started dating each other and she says ‘no’ to a plunge straight to bed, she perhaps wants you to know that it’s too early. She wants to know you more. She certainly doesn’t want to strip before a perfect stranger for the sake of sex only. For women sex is an active physical and emotional involvement with a man.

She is menstruating
Hormones can dampen her sex drive if she is menstruating. So, while she is on her period, she will be a lot more irritable and tired. You shold know that if she says no to sex, she just wants to curl up, relax and sleep. Don’t punish her by groping or seducing her because she doesn’t want you down there. All you can do to make her feel better is to offer a massage or may be just play good music and be with her.

She wants safe sex
While you might be craving to be playful under the sheets, she has every right to put her foot down and say no to sex if you aren’t carrying condoms. In fact you should consider this: safe sex is the best because it reduces the chances of unwanted pregnancy and of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Moreover, bedroom is not a space for sexual negotiations. You should play your cards safe and make it a point to carry condoms if you have a night planned with your partner.

She has body image issues
Most men like women with confident body language and when women lose confidence and have a dipping self-esteem they tend to secretly show it by saying no to sex. This could be either because she has lost or gained too much weight or if she thinks she is unattractive. This makes her hesitate in being naked before her partner or have sex with lights switched on. Just be on a lookout for cues and talk to her at the right time.

Too many things on her mind
Women have too much on their plate (always!) to deal with, whether it is workplace or home. So, if she is stressed out, she is bound to refuse sex and sexual advances you make. For her emotions, love making is not a solution and hence she wants to deal or sort unresolved issues in her head than make a leap for a love making session.